In sum you had a great ordinary life, with its highs and lows. You lived “for better and for worse” as you thought you should. Now you realized that you have grown apart and that the company of your spouse is no longer a pleasure. You have learned to live your own life, you refuse to share the bed, and you want nothing to do with this person with whom you have shared your life.
You have learned to disrespect, to despise, and to hate. This very being who was once the perfect life partner is now an unknown person and you couldn’t care less whether this person is happy or whether this person is living in hell. You are done. You have reached the dreadful point of no return and no matter what you hear about divorcing is not going to convince you to stay in such a rotten relationship. Very well. But think about it for a moment: are you absolutely sure this is the best course of action? Of course, the relationship as it was no longer exists. But, can you find a way to change this relationship and create a different one where no one will be sacrificed?